Why must a relationship be defined?

A relationship is simply something that two people share, be they friends or more. However, people who are more than friends, possibly lovers too can often find it hard to define themselves as being together.

I question whether it is a new fear that men and women have or if it has been going on for centuries. One can be intimate with someone for years, go out together be it by themselves or with friends, but moving the intimacy to a defined relationship can be a hard task. There are the endless thoughts that go through your head, what if they don’t want to move it on, what if they don’t see the other person in their future and this, whatever it maybe, is just a stop gap. Having these doubts in your head can stop you from ever proceeding with the main question. What happens though if both the man and the woman are doing this? Does it mean that they will never have an official title? Do they need an official title?

Most people have some goals that they would like to achieve by certain points in time; it maybe to have earned a certain amount, cleared your debts, got to a certain stage in your career. Until these goals have been achieved, they may not feel content to bring someone else into their word. If they are not able to achieve what they want for themselves then they do not feel capable to share that with another. It may be hard to understand this as the other person, because you may feel that you can assist with these goals. While this may be true, some things people have to complete themselves.

It’s best not to skirt around the edges where relationships are concerned, if you are not happy with the situation, then speaking up about it is the only way that it can be easily addressed. People are not mind readers, nor will they ever be, so if you truly want someone to know what you are feeling then the only way is to let them know. Simply, straight to the point without all the word twisting, be blunt and be considerate.